I don't like dealing with spoiled brats. I wasn't raised as one. I was brought up to live simply and practically. I had to work hard for my rewards. I had my own share of anxieties and punishments.
These people were over-indulged when they were little. They grow up to be holier-than-thou individuals who are proud enough to believe that they are always right. I pity them for not being equipped to handle bigger challenges that the real world throws at them.
Having said that, I would like to share with you some guidelines how NOT to raise spoiled brats.
1. Don't indulge every request. Children should be taught boundaries to nurture emotional growth. It is important that they learn how to delay gratification and to get over their own stumbling blocks. I believe this is known as EQ today.
2. Don't be a safety net. Parents shouldn't feel obligated to rescue their child every time. Children should be allowed to feel frustrated, unhappy and angry. These feelings help them struggle to become stronger and more responsible adults.
3. Just say "No" and make it stick. Most parents tend to say YES all the time because it is difficult to say otherwise. Parents should also keep in mind that NO doesn't become MAYBE the child starts to beg. Otherwise, the child would get the impression that the rules are bendable and negotiable.
4. Make time for consequences. Consequences should not be postponed. If done differently, parents send out a message that the rules apply only when it is convenient.
5. Limit the stuff. In a society that promotes materialism, it is very difficult to teach simplicity. Limiting the stuff helps children realize that it is WHO they are that matters. Most importantly, they are taught that it is not what they possess that defines one's happiness.
6. How to deal with the holidays. The holidays is the time when materialism is most prevalent. Parents must instill the value of giving that comes with receiving gifts during the holidays.
7. It's never too late... to let your children struggle and resolve their own issues. These experiences make them more aware of their limitations. It helps build self-esteem and self-awareness.
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I know this is easier said than done. Good luck to us!
reference: nymetroparents.com
These people were over-indulged when they were little. They grow up to be holier-than-thou individuals who are proud enough to believe that they are always right. I pity them for not being equipped to handle bigger challenges that the real world throws at them.
Having said that, I would like to share with you some guidelines how NOT to raise spoiled brats.
1. Don't indulge every request. Children should be taught boundaries to nurture emotional growth. It is important that they learn how to delay gratification and to get over their own stumbling blocks. I believe this is known as EQ today.
2. Don't be a safety net. Parents shouldn't feel obligated to rescue their child every time. Children should be allowed to feel frustrated, unhappy and angry. These feelings help them struggle to become stronger and more responsible adults.
3. Just say "No" and make it stick. Most parents tend to say YES all the time because it is difficult to say otherwise. Parents should also keep in mind that NO doesn't become MAYBE the child starts to beg. Otherwise, the child would get the impression that the rules are bendable and negotiable.
4. Make time for consequences. Consequences should not be postponed. If done differently, parents send out a message that the rules apply only when it is convenient.
5. Limit the stuff. In a society that promotes materialism, it is very difficult to teach simplicity. Limiting the stuff helps children realize that it is WHO they are that matters. Most importantly, they are taught that it is not what they possess that defines one's happiness.
6. How to deal with the holidays. The holidays is the time when materialism is most prevalent. Parents must instill the value of giving that comes with receiving gifts during the holidays.
7. It's never too late... to let your children struggle and resolve their own issues. These experiences make them more aware of their limitations. It helps build self-esteem and self-awareness.
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I know this is easier said than done. Good luck to us!
reference: nymetroparents.com
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