This afternoon, as I was waiting for my lunch, I received a text message from Johann's former nanny. She was asking about him and about Javi. We exchanged several messages then came a reply, " Di pala katulad ni Johann, naglalakad na nun nag-birthday."
That ticked me off. I set her straight that Javi is just like Johann at that stage. I got the feeling that she is proud of her alaga and is taking credit for her alaga's achievements.
As a parent, I try not to compare my two kids. Every time I feel it creeping into my head, I remind myself that each child is different and develops differently. I know, it is easy for observers to succumb to comparison. Sometimes, I know, it can't be helped.
As a parent, I want my kids to be their best selves. Their best may not be better than others'. Nevertheless, I'd be a proud mom because they did their best.
Comparing achievements often lead to sibling rivalry or jealousy or a misplaced sense of competitiveness. It is something I want to avoid, if possible.
If you become a parent yourself, you'd understand.
That ticked me off. I set her straight that Javi is just like Johann at that stage. I got the feeling that she is proud of her alaga and is taking credit for her alaga's achievements.
As a parent, I try not to compare my two kids. Every time I feel it creeping into my head, I remind myself that each child is different and develops differently. I know, it is easy for observers to succumb to comparison. Sometimes, I know, it can't be helped.
As a parent, I want my kids to be their best selves. Their best may not be better than others'. Nevertheless, I'd be a proud mom because they did their best.
Comparing achievements often lead to sibling rivalry or jealousy or a misplaced sense of competitiveness. It is something I want to avoid, if possible.
If you become a parent yourself, you'd understand.
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